Don’t tell anybody that I said this; it is what I have been observing in the society. Nigerian ladies are marrying their Nigerian men. This is becoming a norm in our country, as against the axiom that, “He who foundeth a wife foundeth favour in the sight of God”. The reverse is the case. It is now, “A lady who foundeth a husband foundeth favour in the sight of the society”. The unmarried ladies are desperate due to the
pressure the society put on them.
So, they are ready to meet every necessary thought of theirs to marry the man who they might not naturally like. What happens is that since finding relationship has gone digital, many of our people, even the married ones, do a lot of unprintable things to satisfy their LOVE life in the absence or knowledge of their loved ones.
Name them: Internet sex, Internet dating, newspapers dating GSM dating etc. Sometimes I become confused that people have taken to promiscuity and call is DEMOCRACY – the shameful government that allows everybody to behave anyhow, in any way, without a caution to discipline. How can somebody publish his or her name (some fake names but the mobile numbers are not fake) and say he or she is looking for a man who would take good care of her, financially?
This person has already told the world that he or she has a penchant for money. One can see that such relationship, if it begins to germinate, is based on material tendencies. The heinous aspect of our marriage institutions today is that many men are lazy, but are bent to looking for ladies who are established. You can see someone marrying a lady as old as the mother. The man’s interest is that the lady has money and he could ‘survive’ from her.
But this is bad? It seems that no one is marrying LOVE in recent years but material things. Is the dearth of material things in marriage that make many married couples put divvy to their marriages in recent time? The world is going gaga! Some even travel to Europe and marry their grand mama’s mate. It is unbecoming. I am watching.
Odimegwu Onwumere is the Founder of Poet against Child Abuse (PACA), Rivers State.