Below is the lamentation of an abused wife. I’ve known about their problem for over two years now. I did my best to save their marriage.
I know the man to be a dog. He lives in another city (Abuja) with a sleuth of women. He left wife and children in another city.
When his mother died and the funeral was set, he told the wife not to attend the funeral.
The wife wanted to attend so she could pay her last respect to the grandmother of her children.
But because the man had arranged to come home with new girls, he didn’t want the woman to attend the funeral events.
In fact, he threatened to kill her if she went. She sought DPA help. I mobilized mobile policemen armed to the teeth to escort her to the funeral.
The man continued in his wicked ways. The woman wrote to me today the piece below. I am going to help her free herself from this demon.
If you accuse me of promoting divorce, I will be very proud to answer.
The only regret I have now is that I did not do it two years ago when I first discovered that marriage was dead and incurable.
Am emotionally wrecked. Am not going to work today bcos if I do I will vent it on my children in class (she is a teacher) and I don’t want to do that.
I need to be out of this marriage soonest. I have been hurt too many times there is no room enough for forgiveness anymore.
If I ever come to live with him any more as a wife to him, I will do the unimaginable. He chooses every Tom Dick and Harry over me.
He has bruised me beyond imagination. He gas turned me to becoming who I never ever planned to be.
I need a divorce from him like I need life. Please help me not to do what am not supposed to do.
Am not doing anything to prepare my children for school this morning because of the way I feel this morning.
Please I don’t want to be tagged a bad wife. Please help me out of this depression. I badly need to be de-wifed from this man.
The hurts are too numerous. If I ever have have to come together with him, I can’t promise to be a good wife.
I hate him for what he has made me pass through. I hate him so much like I love life.
Am hiding my face from my children so they don’t see the tears in my eyes. How do I go about this divorce?
I MUST get the divorce this year. I rather die than continue to be a wife of Mr. XXXXXX beyond this year
The hurts are 1,000,000% more than the joy I have had for the past 15 yes of being married to him.
He has nothing, totally nothing to prove against me. But I have a lot to prove against him.
If you can, please call him on xxxxxxxxxxxxx, tell him that I beg him to give me a divorce.
NOTE: An unhealthy marriage is deadly. It is better to be divorced so you can be alive to help your children. Otherwise, all of you could be dead.
If your life is endangered in your marriage and your pastor tells you not to divorce your spouse, the first thing to do is to divorce your church and the pastor.
Divorce everything and everybody who tried to keep you in a marriage that threatens your life.
By Emeka Ugwuonye